Monday, December 26, 2011

Peace and happiness

     We had a beautiful Christmas. We had good food, presents, romanian carols on the radio, friends, and love all around us. With Catalina growing up, I wanted her to know the traditions we grew up with in Romania. Christmas eve we are supposed to fast, so we have a special sweet dish, called "Jesus' diapers" They are very fine dough layers filled with walnuts, sugar and orange zest. Back home, my mom actually made the dough layers. This is a VERY tricky part, as the layers need to be transparent thin, and after that cooked fast on hot steel sheets. I cheated, bought fillo dough and cooked it in the hot oven. I have to say the result was awesome and I was very proud of myself. A very good start to Christmas preparations.

We tried to teach Catalina some romanian carols, but the american ones won. She kept singing in the house "Ji'ggle bells, ji'ggle bells" for quite some time, so we were confident she'll be able to carol for grandparents. Indeed she did!

Christmas eve we decided we'll let Catalina open most of her presents. They were a lot! She received a kitchen play set she loved. This gave mommy and daddy plenty of time for themselves, as our cutie pie played fascinated by herself more than half an hour.

Of course, her nana sent way too many cool presents, and she made sure played with all of them the same night. This one below is a cute lady bug tent that when fully assembled occupies half of our living room.


Well, not such a big deal when you get this smile on her face!




However, the only present that Catalina recognizes as coming from Santa is the one that grandma sent from Romania. A beautiful colored pencil set and coloring books. The moment she opened those, she dropped whatever she was doing and screamed: "cheion, mama, schie", a.k.a: crayons, mama, write!

We all received presents. Some bigger, some smaller. Here are the extremes :)
When the excitement started to go down, we went to bed, in hope we'll still have some romanian carolists from church. We fell asleep before, but here is a nice picture of my favorite elves:
One can think that after all that Christmas day did not have anything new to offer. Not quite the case. Even more presents, food and friends. Like I said, a good Christmas.

Evening came and our table was still full of food, our hearts filled with love and happiness. And our house spotless clean (not).

Merry Christmas to all our family and friends! We love you all and wish you were here with us.

We are back to work for now, but fun begins once more in less than 4 days. We anticipate a very nice New Year celebration (hoping that everybody is healthy, weather does not go crazy and airlines do not go on strike). The reason: we'll have majorly cool entertainment:

                                                       The Foss family!!

Friday, December 9, 2011

Magic

     I think Christmas is just beautiful. Carols cannot start early enough for me on the radio, and I would like Christmas decorations the day after Halloween. This year things seem to work out my way.
First weekend after Thanksgiving I met most of my grad school friends. Grad school itself resembles hell (a lot of stress and very little money). Our lab was special, as we were a bunch of girls who just got along. We now have our own kids, and it was amazing to see them all after such a long time. Catalina was her usual self and did not befriend anyone. Also, being her sweet self, after they left she kept calling their names, one by one, until mommy got a headache. This story still continues till today, she still falls asleep calling Bella, Ta'ini, Doyet, Shaada and Yiiiig. And here we are, a happy group of beautiful mothers and daughters.


    After that, it was officially holiday season. So we started our hunt for Santa. First one we encountered was in our neighborhood. Each year we have a nice event, when Santa comes in a fire truck and listens to wishes of as many kids as he can before night sets in. Parents can enjoy hot chocolate and cookies. Win-win for everybody. This year we got there a little late (Cati and mommy slept half of the afternoon...). Catalina still got to sit in Santa's lap and even got his last stocking! Since it was the first time this year she saw Santa, we did not expect any smiles from her. Santa didn't get any, but we got plenty!





Next stop on our holiday tradition list was the Macy's magic light show. We thought Catalina will love it, but she was much more interested in running through stacks and stacks of clothes. We saw a nice set up from "A Christmas Carol"and then we saw Santa for the second time. Again, not such a big hit with Catalina.



We are not parents who get discouraged easily. My institute has a tradition of bringing Santa for all the employee's kids. Not only the kids get to see Santa and get some presents, but parents get an unofficial half day off. This was Catalina's first year to participate in the event, so I was quite excited. We had nice decorations, cookies, apple cider, kid movies, magic show, live music. I was very excited! Catalina fell asleep on my shoulder, so ... not that excited.
The wait line for Santa was looong. Catalina was ready to quit, but she immediately got interested when I told her Santa will give her a book and crayons. So, for the next 20 minutes she kept repeating "creion, carte, mos, brate" (a.k.a crayon, book, Santa, lap). Let me tell you, after you hear this for 10 times, you get tired. After another 10 times, you wish you were deaf. After 20 minutes of this you belong to new class: the crazy.

    We finally got in front of the line. Can be the third time the charm? Yes, Catalina loved her third Santa. She opened her arms to be held by Santa, looked in his eyes, said hi, slapped hi fives and waited patiently. She was rewarded with her book and crayons and a big pink flower baloon. She was happy. I was too.

    So, I dare everybody now to challenge the magic of Christmas. A two year old who is shy with most of our friends, sits on the lap of a big strange guy in a big red coat. But only the third one she meets!
I think it's quite understandable, we are, after all, talking about the adventures of a pretty little princess.

Monday, November 28, 2011

Thinking and thanking

     We just passed Thanksgiving long weekend. As with Halloween, we don't celebrate it in Romania, but since this holiday involves lots of food, shopping and resting with the family is was obvious we'd adopt it. American people gather around the table and before they start eating they say their thanks. It's not much different from Orthodox religion when before each meal (not only Thanksgiving) we are supposed to thank God for the food, for keeping us healthy and all the other good stuff.

   At my first Thanksgiving dinner in America I had no idea what to be thankful for and this ended in quite some embarrassing silence at our hosts table. Truth is, I never felt the need to express my gratitude, as I never felt extremely lucky. My life was just ordinary. Obviously, when Catalina came into my life my eyes opened and I saw whatever I could not see all this time. To say I am thankful for Catalina, is superficial and covers only little that actually goes through my mind. It's true, she's an amazing gift by herself. However, with her, came the knowledge that life is great, the opening of the eyes and seeing the amazing sunshine, the amazing rain, the amazing everything. Something clicked in my brain and now I can see I was lucky all along, that life was beautiful for me most of the time and, truthfully, I am one of the luckiest people around. I did not have an ordinary life, not because I did great things, but because I was given great things. To count only few:
     I was given a whole body that is healthier than most of of other's.
     I was given enough brain power to have a good education that lets me work little and gain more
     I was given enough mental strength to pass the rainy days without sacrificing integrity or self esteem
     I was given a mostly normal family. I was raised by the most amazing mother. I was given the most amazing sister. I was loved by the most amazing grandmother. I have met the guy who actually "gets me" and luckily enough, he was given to me as both a husband and the father of my child.
    I was given Catalina and all the light that came with her.

So, sitting at the dinner table this year I was prepared. It's just that we skipped the thanking part and went straight for the turkey :). Not a bad one at all.


We spent the holidays in a traditional way: eating, drinking, sleeping and shopping. And when all that was done, we started it from square one.
We ended it by decorating the Christmas tree. We were a little worried that Catalina will knock it over, of break some of the decorations and hurt herself. We were planning on keeping her as far as possible. Ha ha ha...there was nowhere close enough for her! She wanted to touch every single ornament, every single branch of the tree. To be honest, she was quite helpful in handing mommy and daddy ornaments to hang.
Yes daddy, my heart is all yours! (as I know your heart is all mine, too)
When all was done, she was ready to admire her work.

Later on, it was my time to admire my work :)

What can I say, from all the things I've done so far, Catalina is the only one purely perfect. Well done, mommy :)

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Bye bye, mommy

The week that was...what a week! Catalina and I were home alone for the week. With daddy away across oceans and sees, we planned parties over parties. Catalina knows how to have a good time, I can tell you this. There is no getting bored or not knowing what to do. Never a lack of innovative ideas with her.
She discovered dolls can be fun if you have a bunch of laptop cleaning cloths as blankets, or of you can dress the doll with mommy's socks. Fashion has no limits!

Talking about fashion, somebody might have a shoe obsession...Are these enough for you sweetheart? Yes, this is daddy's girl. And daddy's shoes too :)
We also played a game Catalina loves. It's called "the invisible girl". Catalina puts on her sunglasses, then mommy starts calling "Catalina, where are you, mommy can't see you". It works! Every time she believes she's invisible. She giggles, but she never lets me wait too long before she takes them off. I think she knows how scared I would be to actually not see her.
Rest assure, our time together was not just party, party, party. Let's not forget how geeky my precious little papadia is! After reading many many books (but never enough for her), we are ready to do our homework.


Catalina has a little pink purse that nana Petronela gave her. There was once a cute little cat in the purse, but Catalina needed space for her gadgets, so the kitty had to go. Tonight she was stuffing her purse with a little pink camera and mommy's phone
then, all of the sudden, she waves bye bye and says: bye bye mommy. And she just flees the room with the purse hanging on her shoulder. It was a little game and she was funny, but I almost got tears in my eyes. How will I ever be ready for her to say bye bye? I am not ready for her to go to college, and what is worse, I am sure I will never be. I know I still have some years till then, but at the speed time flies, I might wake up tomorrow morning with her wearing high hills and lipstick (ok, this last one she occasionally wears even now :).
How will I ever be ready to let go of these beautiful eyes?
I don't think it's humanly possible, so I just look at her, smell her, hold her, kiss her, hoping that I will gather enough of her in me, to keep my heart warm for when she'll be all grown.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Playing and playing

Little Catalina has lots of energy these days. After a week of illness she decided that life is meant to be lived and she has no second to spare. On Saturday we went on a little trip to play in the leaves.
She did not seem very impressed, so on Sunday, when I took her out again I expected a very short outing. Well, this time she loved it. She ruffled the leaved, she threw them in the air, she played in mud.

She talked, and talked, then talked some more. The she started counting. She's been doing this for the past days, and we tried recording her, just to give her grandmas one more reason to gleam with pride. However, Catalina is camera shy, so every time she saw the camera she was smiling and running away. Not this time though! Here it comes, counting from 1 all the way to 5!
When her fingernails could not hold any more dirt, I decided it's time for a thorough bath. Catalina had something different in mind, and like usually, things went her way. Half an hour play with warm soapy water. Yes, those duckies needed some scrubbing!

When finally our hands were clean enough, Catalina invited me to a nice cup of tea. This has been our ritual every morning. We wake up, brush our teeth, then we "drink" tea. We get dressed for day care only after Catalina has played with every single piece from her tea set. I can't say I complain, she's the sweetest and silliest waiter ever.

 Cheers! Here is to you, my cute little doll. May all our days be like this one, and your beautiful chestnut eyes be always filled with light.

Sunday, November 6, 2011

Short long weekend

   It wasn't an officially long weekend, but we did have daylight saving time this weekend, so it was one hour longer. Every spring when we move our clocks one hour faster and I need to wake up one hour earlier I think of this time, and how much I'll enjoy gaining that extra hour of sleep.
 
 Everything seemed wonderful in the beginning. Friday started with beautiful weather and an amazingly happy Catalina. I guess I mentioned several times that Catalina needs time to adjust to people. the same goes for shoes. I think it's worse for the shoes actually. Catalina spent the whole summer wearing one pair of sandals. Nothing else. Trying to get her to put any other pair of shoes (most of them much prettier and definitely  more expensive) ended up in screaming and crying. So, like usually she had it her way. We got her fall shoes waaaayyy in advance, to make sure the transition will be easy. Yeah, not that much...she went to daycare wearing those worn sandals many rainy cold days. Somehow, one day she decided to try on a pair of sneakers and she wore only those ones from that day on. Now, winter is coming, so we got her several pairs of winter boots, so she can make friends with them before the snow. Little we knew we'l have snow before Halloween. No, Catalina did not wear winter boots in the snow, but her old, pink sneakers. We were (still are) a little worried that our cutie pie will make snowmen wearing running shoes. And this is why the weekend started beautifully. Catalina took some interest in her pretty pink boots!

And who do you think was wearing those shoes 2 minutes later? Oh, yeah, total victory!. Short lived, it's true, as mommy got too greedy and wanted her to walk in her new shoes when she was not ready yet. She demanded "papuci off" in the next 20 seconds. This girl definitely needs time to take a relationship to the next level. (I can only wish it stays like this when she'll be a teenager too...:)

      With our hearts all warmed up, we went to Catalina's 18 months well dr visit. Those who know me, also know for how long I looked for a doctor who will accept my delayed/not all at vaccination policy. And we found this group that said it's ok. After going through all the doctors in that group we almost lost hope in a human doctor who will accept our choice. When all of a sudden a male doctor came to that practice, Catalina fell in love with him, and easily understandably we loved him too. He did try to tell us about vaccines, but the moment I shared all my education degrees with him he never bothered me again on the subject.

    So, all happy, we went to the doctor's office. Little we knew that our appointment was not with our preferred doctor, but with a witch that made a point of getting Catalina to cry at every visit. She always handled our daughter like she is a piece of meat. So, after lecturing me about all the risks I am exposing my kid by not vaccinating, she diagnoses Catalina with bilateral ear infection and gives her a much stronger antibiotic because she is not vaccinated. Really? Are antibiotics now working against bacteria also? Or, let me guess, kids that are vaccinated are protected against bacteria too? Vaccines are not efficient against the stupid viruses they are supposed to protect against, but now they are good for bacterial infections. Whatever...I was in a good mood, a little disheartened by the fact that Catalina is sick and I didn't even know, so I didn't flush all my academic degrees in front of her. I do regret it now. As we left we were handed the "information package" for parents who chose to not vaccinate. It contained a very shiny book with pictures of tombstones of kids who died of various diseases preventable (?) by vaccination. I looked eagerly for a book with tombstone pictures of kids who died because of vaccines. Everybody knows they exist. Or better and sadly said, they existed. The book was missing from the "information package". Hm...do you think some unnamed doctor sees only one side of the story?

    We left the office very angry, with Catalina showing her first signs of sickness. We started giving her the antibiotic and we got ready to welcome my friend Jaya. I have wanted to see her for so long and now she was finally coming to Philly. We planned that after Catalina goes to sleep we'll have a long night of girly talk, adult meaningful subjects discussed over beer and junk food. I was a little worried that Catalina will put on an act. Remember, she is not the friendliest kid and she was sick too. Catalina took to Jaya like the fish to water. It was actually hard to convince her to sleep as she kept calling Jaya's name. Sick as she was, she fell asleep after taking her antibiotic. We have just opened our beer bottles (ok, I admit, I finished my beer 2 seconds after I opened it..) when I heard Catalina crying and crying. She was really sick and I suspect is was mostly because of the string antibiotic (she threw up once then she fell back asleep beautifully). I had to end our "girls night in" party early. Luckily, Jaya spent half of Sunday with us also. Have I mentioned that Catalina loved her? They had tea together, they slapped "high fives", and flirted with each other.

We were worried on how saying good bye will go. Pure luck, just as Catalina was starting her crying face with Jaya leaving, our friends Dana and Gabi called they are in front of our house with their son Alex. Catalina has been calling Alex and Dana's names for a while now, and she was DELIGHTED to hear they came. And a second beautiful half of Sunday started. Catalina shared toys with Alex and they played together, not ignoring each other, but interacting and ... yeah, a little fighting.


We had a delightful Sunday, but wasn't it supposed to be an hour longer? How come I didn't feel that extra hour? I feel cheated of one hour I had to spend with my little angel. Mondays are the worst. After 2 days full of laughter, I go back to being alone at my desk. Well, not alone, but without Catalina. That is very lonely.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

High tech or just plain old fun?

A friend sent me some days back to read a NY times article. It was about how kids of IT pros go mostly to private schools that avoid at all costs the use of computers or other advanced technology in kids education. There was a pretty interesting and nice debate as to when it's best to introduce technology in the life a kid, how much damage and how much advantages it can bring.
And I found myself teaming with the parents who want their kids to enjoy a childhood free of TV, computers, cellphones. Yes, in theory I was supporting 90% of their views. But when I looked at reality, I had to admit was the world's biggest hypocrite. I cannot spend more than half an hour without checking my iphone. At work I check my email every 5 minutes. If we have spare time over the weekend the TV is on. Yes, our family is possessed. Obviously, Catalina learns behavior from her parents. She LOVES electronics. Photo cameras, iphone, computers are her best friends. She does not care for dolls. Here she is, happy beyond limits, when I gave her my old laptop. She did not throw things at it, did not bang it, she kept looking at the screen and touching gently the keys.
We do try to take her out for long walks and playground. Now, with the weather getting colder we do stay inside a lot. Luckily, her daycare is quite good, it is one of those schools who encourage outside play and all that healthy stuff :). For example, today Catalina came home with a whole "mamaliga" (romanian for polenta) on her shirt. And this is why: they played with corn meal. Yes, she LOVED it.
So here is hoping. She likes iphone and mamaliga equally :). Couldn't be any other way, she is just too perfect!